But when spouses separate or civilly divorce after forming emotional, sexual, financial, parental, social, and spiritual bonds—becoming “one”—they do not separate . Our goal is to help you discover the truth of your identity and your security. No one will experience divorce quite the same way you do. You could have risen to the top of the company and retired early, but not now.
No role in marriage (spouse or parent) should ever be the center of your life; that place is reserved for God alone. Most people enter marriage with still-unhealed wounds from their past. It may seem that ALL of life’s golden opportunities have passed you by. And on top of that you are alone to face caring for your children and your aging parents.
Blow the dust off your bible and spend a few minutes reading the Psalms; you’ll relate to the deep heart cries and discover the calming, reassuring promises of God to take care of you. Perhaps you may never have thought about going to sit before Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament. Avoid advice from those who tell you to get over it, to move on, or to take your ex for all he or she is worth in court.
He promised never to leave you and left His real, true and substantial Presence available to you in the Eucharist. Especially ignore the counsel to go find a new relationship.
Yes, you can share each other’s different interests, but that’s why you need to ask this question, to see if you would enjoy adapting to their interests or if they would enjoy adapting to yours. You’d be surprised with the answers to this question.
Full healing from divorce might mean attention to other such issues.Each situation will require certain steps but for most couples this is a time for patience, practical planning and doing the following: (1) Ask God to help you keep your primary focus on Him and His will for you. Over time they'll come back and the hurt will be recycled.In a certain sense, the marriage--whether valid or not, salvageable or not--is secondary to your love for and faithfulness to God. Remember: If there's infidelity, addiction or other sinful behavior going on, refuse to let it back into your life and home. It means get help and let your intellect lead, not your emotions (fear, guilt, regret, etc.) (4) .But a new relationship, a spending blitz, or a half-gallon of Haagen Dazs will only hurt you more in the long run. Check to see if there is a “Catholic Divorce Survival Guide” program available in your area. Maybe later you can facilitate a group in your parish.
We offer healthy ideas to help you through this tough time: slowing down; getting lots of rest, unloading your overscheduled calendar for a while, taking walks, or listening to beautiful music. Only the spiritual Truth will bring you the deepest healing. Call your best friend or family member who has an open heart, a listening ear, and who’s walking closely with Our Lord.
When you are willing to begin to put Him at the center of your heart, He will heal you from the inside out. Bible: Gen Catechism: …the first sin had for its first consequence the rupture of the original communion between man and woman. They also bring huge hopes and dreams for the future. As they say, “life sucks and then you die.” The healing of divorce thus requires your willingness to eventually to why you were born in the first place, why God made you, and where you are headed for eternity.