Her rationale for these dating rules may seem obvious, but many people tend to forget in the heat of the moment."You might find that you don't even like the person," Allen tells Web MD.After I told him a little about her, he asked me a very pointed question: "Marry her? The implication in both examples is that everyone ought to have a string of relationships before settling down. With Hollywood as our vehicle, we Americans have cultivated the expectation of "dating for dating's sake." We seem to believe there is some benefit to attaching oneself emotionally to another person only to tear away again after a year or so, and then repeating the process until eventually becoming jaded, old and single. " If I remember correctly, he actually laughed slightly as he asked the question. The truth was that I just thought she was cute, and she liked me back, so we started dating.Other experts agree that sex too-soon can lead to undesirable consequences."It becomes much more difficult to objectively see each other's character traits" says Susanne Alexander, a relationship coach and author of Can We Dance? "Some couples then slide into engagement and marriage only to discover they have missed seeing major aspects of each other." While not every dating scenario that involves sex leads to marriage or even a serious relationship, couples do owe it to themselves to talk about where they see their relationship going and how sex might change the relationship -- before they get in bed together. The woman may assume sex implies a commitment; the man may not see it that way," Allen tells Web MD.'" When directing her advice on dating rules to a male audience, Mc Clary puts things a little differently.
While you can't apply a one-size-fits-all response to sexual dating rules regardless of age or experience, professionals who have studied the topic say it is a good idea to develop a set of prudent dating rules - before the big date."There's really no formula that I've encountered," says 28-year-old Andrew Reymer, a single resident of Baltimore, Maryland.